Don’t spend your energy on women or your efforts on those who destroy kings. (Proverbs 31:3 HCSB)
If God isn’t in the plan or relationship, then you will burn out. Don’t waste time with people who will ruin your relationship with Jesus. May your virtue be more valuable than precious gems, bringing good to those around you.
Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk — not as unwise people but as wise — making the most of the time, because the days are evil. So don’t be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. (Ephesians 5:15-17 HCSB)
It’s time to make the most of my “single” hours while I have them; no more pity parties. I can be surrounded by beauty now! There’s no reason why life needs to be put on hold between the ages of 18 and “married”!
Be diligent! Just like the Proverbs 31 wife is busy with the affairs of the house, the husband, the family, and the employer, the single woman must also be busy with the affairs of the house, her Heavenly Bridegroom, the family, and her employer. The rules don’t change, they’re just manifested in different ways.
I love the book Lady In Waiting by Jackie Kendall & Debby Jones. I have read it at least 5 times! In the section Lady of Diligence, they list 8 practical ways that single women can practice diligence – not too much different than the woman in Proverbs 31. Below is the list.
Diligence in the Ministry of Teaching
Diligence in the Ministry of Encouragement
Diligence in the Ministry of Prayer
Diligence in the Ministry of Service
Diligence in the Ministry of Writing
Diligence in the Ministry of Listening
Diligence in the Ministry of Hospitality
Diligence in the Ministry of Helps
Be careful not to expand your ministry territory beyond where God is leading, otherwise you will burn out. In Prov. 31:16, the wife considered the field before purchasing it. She weighed the pros and cons before enlarging her territory. The same applies for adding to our busy schedules. Service for God and with God is a beautiful thing. Service to be seen by God is bondage. We will never be able to outdo God, so we should stop trying. Do what He’s called you to do, and excel at it. With that plan of action, dog good things for Jesus with the remaining hours you have.
Therefore, my dear brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the Lord’s work, knowing that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. (1 Corinthians 15:58 HCSB)